This is what 18 looks like

At 1:25 p.m. March 24, 2000, my world changed forever.

Today, this is what 18 looks like.

Unschool Rules: Celebrating an 18th birthday

I want to remember these days forever… not just the big moments (like Sarah getting her new Chromebook from her dad, which she loved…)

Unschool Rules: Celebrating an 18th birthday

… but the little times too, like making funny faces with Dan…

Unschool Rules: Celebrating an 18th birthday

18 is amazing.

Sarah’s “18 years” thoughts

These are all directly Sarah’s words.

Three words that best describe her: Awesome, amazing and cool

Favorite food: Macaroni and cheese

Best piece of advice she has ever given or gotten: Never stop being who you are. (Chris chimes in with “Work hard and make it cool,” which Sarah told him as he was leaving for work one day many years ago and which has since become a family catchphrase!)

Favorite TV show: The Walking Dead

Thing she is most looking forward to in the future: Getting a tattoo (that’s coming Friday, March 30!)

Best thing about her: I’m definitely fashionable. (“You’re really kind,” my mom added.)

Best thing about her family: They’re supportive.

My “more than 18 years” thoughts

As we were writing this out, my mom says, “When you’re done, you should do that for you. It’d be interesting.” So, here we go!

Three words that best describe me: Eclectic, interested and (Sarah picks artistic, creative and kind. “And to add on to it, you’re very smart.”)

Favorite food: Also macaroni and cheese

Best piece of advice I have ever given or gotten: “What do you care what other people think?” (Also the title of one of the best books I’ve ever read.)

Favorite TV show: Uh… I don’t really watch TV? I like Jeopardy a lot, I guess.

Thing I am most looking forward to in the future: It’s really hard to narrow it down to just one thing! Right now probably launching my next writing project, a personal finance website.

Best thing about me: I’ll do anything to help someone.

Best thing about my family: We’re a team.

Mom’s “turning-83” thoughts

March 25, 2018, is my mom’s 83rd birthday! So we’re going to make her do this too.

Unschool Rules: Celebrating an 18th birthday and an 83rd one!

(There she is, watching while Sarah opens her gifts!)

Three words or phrases that best describe me: Survivor, good listener (that was my suggestion, but she liked it), and likes to cook.

(So as Mom and I were doing this, the first word that came to mind for me was chubby, and Mom came up with fat. We are not exactly kind to ourselves, are we?)

Favorite food: Anything seafood, anything chocolate and hoagies. If she has to pick one, seafood.

Best piece of advice she has ever given or gotten: “Don’t worry about tomorrow; it’s going to happen anyway.”

Favorite TV show: M.A.S.H.

Thing she is most looking forward to in the future: Living! (As long as she’s able to get around, she added.)

Best thing about her: “I’m compassionate.”

Best thing about her family: “We all help whoever we can, whenever we can.”

Awesome unschooling gift ideas

I can’t believe it, but we are celebrating the 18th birthday of our favorite unschooler in March 2018. She’s notoriously hard to buy for; while she’s got some interests and hobbies (hello yes please give her every tchotchke related to the Walking Dead and also she loves shirts so much her closet is scary), she’s never been into the traditional stuff that her in-school friends get for their birthdays and other holidays. So since the many parts of our own family are always asking, “But what does she need?” I figured there might be other unschoolers out there whose families want to find some great unschooling gift ideas.

Unschool Rules unschooling gift ideas guide: Games, toys, subscriptions, electronics and more

I’ve divided our list into categories, and while some of the games are specifically better for older kids or teens, and some of the toys are better for younger kids, most of the items here really span a wide variety of ages. That’s intentional – one of the best parts of unschooling is having interests that grow with your child, not things they outgrow each year!

All of these items are things we either currently own/subscribe to, or that we had in the past, and that we recommend as gifts for other unschoolers in your life! If you are a family member who saw this post and hoped I was telling you what Sarah actually wants, you can see her non-book wishlist and her book wishlist, and our family game wishlist as well.

Unschooling Gift Ideas: Games

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OK, this is probably the easiest one for me to start with. As a family, we love games – video, card, board, whatever. We almost always get a couple of new family games for Christmas, and lots in between as well.

I could easily list a few dozen of these, but I’m trying to limit myself to just a few favorites, and especially ones that have been interesting to us as unschoolers.


Munchkin

Why we like it: It’s hilarious, and it encourages reading, story-telling and yes, even some math. Also you can totally get killed by a duck. We also like this because it has some cooperative aspects, which we often prefer to straight competitive gaming. See more here.


Ticket to Ride

Why we like it: It’s geography, trains, strategy, and not hard to learn. We play Ticket to Ride Europe, because Sarah likes Europe, but we’d absolutely love to get some of the other versions as well. See more here.


Lanterns

Why we like it: The best way I can describe Lanterns is as a beautiful, calm way to spend your evening. It’s neat because it’s tied to another culture that we’ve gotten to talk about, and it’s super-pretty, too. See more here.


Timeline

Why we like it: There are actually a whole set of Timeline games – American history, inventions, diversity, music and cinema, and more. We have most of them, and you can mix and match. It’s super-simple – you get a card with an event name on one side and the year it happened on the other, and you try to build a timeline by guessing where it goes between other events already played. Once you guess, you flip it over and see if you were right. You can play this competitively, but we also generally do it cooperatively, which we think is more fun. See more here.


Gloom

Why we like it: This is a phenomenal game for creative people and those with a morbid sense of humor. The goal is to make your “family” of characters as miserable as possible and then kill them. Which, y’know, sounds horrible, but turns out to be hilarious. As you play modifier cards – “Was Terrified by Topiary,” for instance, you also get to tell a story about how that character came to be in such a situation. When we got it, I wasn’t sure our crew would be that into doing that, but we have all taken to it amazingly and have killed off our people in some very creative ways. See more here.


Escape Room games

Why we like it: We love doing in-person escape rooms, but they can get pretty expensive. When we realized you could get ones to play at home, we were hooked! They’re super-fun and a great way for everyone in the family to work together to solve a puzzle. See more here.

You can also see our current wishlist here – all the games we want but DON’T yet have!

Unschool Rules unschooling gift ideas - Escape Room game

We escaped the “prison break” edition of our Escape Room: The Game set! (The cats were actually no help at all.)

Unschooling Gift Ideas: Experiences

This is my absolute favorite kind of gift, because it doesn’t need to be stored in my house. No, seriously. I would take an experience over a physical item every day. Here are some of the ones we’ve loved most – and some of the ones we would love to give or get again!

Museum/zoo/aquarium memberships

Why we like it: We love museums. Museums are expensive for a family of five. Ergo, museum memberships make a good gift. We especially love reciprocal memberships, where you join at one place and get free admission to others. We did this through the North Museum of Nature and Science in Lancaster and the Lehigh Valley Zoo. We didn’t get to use them as much as we hoped, but it was still a big savings and encouraged us to go more than we would otherwise. We’d love to do this again, maybe with aquariums or history museums! They also are a family gift, so while they might be of particular interest to one person, everyone gets to enjoy.

Concerts/shows

Why we like it: Because music and performance are awesome! We have been to tons of concerts; most recently, Sarah, Dan and I got to see my hero, David Byrne, in Hershey, PA, and last fall Mom, Sarah and I went to see Celtic Thunder, which is an annual tradition. We also try to make sure we get to a play or musical or ballet a couple of times a year, either to support friends performing or to check out a huge production, like when we went to see Phantom of the Opera on Broadway.

Classes/camps

Why we like it: If you think unschoolers can’t enjoy formal classes, you’re totally wrong. Sarah has done Lego camps, robotics camps, music classes, instrument lessons, art lessons, tae kwon do classes… and that doesn’t count all the things the rest of us do, from paint nights to my own tae kwon do practice to scrapbooking workshops to cooking classes. And if your gift is to share in a class with someone you love, that’s even better. My mom and I had a blast painting Van Gogh-inspired wine glasses one time, for instance!

Conventions

Why we like it: So, the best gift we ever gave Sarah was a ticket to Walker-Stalker Con, a convention for fans of The Walking Dead. Maybe your family is into Star Trek, or anime, or comics, or jewelry-making, or stamp-collecting, or scrapbooking, or… There are conventions for all of those things. In fact, I’ve personally BEEN to conventions for all of those things! These make great gifts. Even if you’re not into the topic of interest, it’s amazing to watch your loved one’s face light up because they’re interested.

Unschool Rules: Unschooling gift ideas - durable sets of blocks

Unschooling Gift Ideas: Toys

You might think that at almost 18, Sarah would be past the “toy” phase, and in a lot of ways she obviously is. But there are some things that lasted well into her teen years and that we still enjoy (yes, we still buy LEGO!)



High-quality blocks

Why we like it: We bought the Melissa and Doug 60-piece wood block set when Sarah was 9, and we just finally sold it (still in great shape despite years of use) when we moved to our new house last May! Sarah loves the feel of natural wood, and we liked having some larger blocks to build big structures with. We wanted real wood, and something that was easy to store, and this was perfect. Same goes for the 150-piece Imaginarium set, which includes some bright colors, too. Super for imaginative play. See more about the larger blocks here and the smaller blocks here.


LEGO sets

Why we like it: Sarah has had LEGO sets since she was born, literally, since she inherited many of mine, and in turn, I’d inherited some of mine from my (8-years-older-than-me) nephew. Minifigures are probably our biggest specific LEGO love. They’ve worked out great, because we can act out almost anything. Reading Percy Jackson and the Olympians’ The Lightning Thief and need a Minotaur? WE HAVE A MINOTAUR. Suddenly need to replicate Godzilla’s takeover of Japan? WE HAVE GODZILLA. It’s pretty cool. And maybe just a little scary. See more here.


Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars

Why we like it: Cars are cool for any age. (Dan’s brother, Dave, and Sarah regularly swap favorite Matchbox and LEGO car sets as gifts). Sarah used to have “stories” made up for each of her cars, like how they’re in car school, how some like ice cream, how some are good leaders and more. And that’s not counting the fact that she knows what make and model each is for real, as well. See more here.

Unschool Rules: Unschooling gift ideas - Matchbox and Hot Wheels cars

Unschooling Gift Ideas: Subscriptions

Subscriptions, like experiences, are especially great gifts in our family because they mean we don’t necessarily have to store a bunch of “stuff,” and they extend the joy from a one-time opening of a birthday gift to something special every month.

Streaming services

Why we like it: You can’t give a much better gift than the gift of unlimited TV- and movie-watching potential. We started out buying individual movies through Xfinity’s On Demand, then got Netflix, and now also have Amazon Prime and Hulu. (We probably won’t keep Hulu once we get through our current series, but you never know!)

Ones to try:

Subscription boxes

Why we like it: Subscription boxes are one of my favorite things ever. Basically, it comes in the mail, it isn’t a bill, and I get to feel like I’m opening a present every month. How can you go wrong? (Also sometimes they contain food.)

Ones to try:

  • Artsnacks – New art supplies. You can’t go wrong. (This is one of the best gifts I’ve ever received.)
  • Universal Yums – Snacks from a different country around the world each month, with accompanying trivia and stories about the companies who make the foods.
  • Awesome Pack – New board and table games and a bunch more cool goodies.
  • Comic Bento – Comic books and graphic novels, including many that are great that would otherwise be hard to discover unless you live near a high-end comic store.
  • Any cheese of the month club – Because… cheese? (Seriously, this is the gift I keep wishing for!)

Unschool Rules unschooling gift ideas: Subscription boxes like Universal Yums

Unschooling Gift Ideas: Technology

Technology powers almost all of our explorations of any subject we can dream up. Some of these are big-deal gifts – like the Chromebook Sarah will be getting as an 18th-birthday present from her dad, Chris – and others are unschooling gift ideas that are super-simple and anyone can give.

Chromebook

Why we like it: Sarah is SUPER excited to get this as her 18th birthday gift. She loves to edit videos for Instagram, but she can’t post to Instagram from her computer and can’t type long captions on her phone. Enter the best of both worlds: A 2-in-1 Chromebook that can be folded and touchscreened for use like a tablet (and that runs any Google Play apps), but that can also work with a keyboard and mouse. See more here.


Cozmo

Why we like it: This awesome little robot is cute and smart, and feels like part of the family. (When he says my name I kind of melt.) He’s great for a variety of ages – our friends’ 7- and 10-year-olds like him, Sarah thinks he’s great, and the rest of us adults have fun with him too. See more here.


Hexbugs

Why we like it: These were one of the first things Sarah got into when we started homeschooling, because she was adamant about pursuing an interest in robots and $20 was about the limit of my robot price range. They’re cute, fun, and give you a good chance to talk about how sensors work, as the different kinds have different “skills” like avoiding (or moving toward) noise or light, or avoiding table edges. See more here.


Fitbit

Why we like it: Something that promotes family activity, and that we can enjoy together? That’s a big win. Right now, Dan, Sarah and I all have Fitbit Charges (Sarah the original Charge HR, and Dan and I the Charge 2). We do weekly step goal challenges and can sometimes be found walking in circles around our house, affectionately called “NASCARing,” to get steps. See more here.


Headphones

Why we like it: Seriously, if you want to give a great gift, give earbuds. We go through them like underwear in our house. Well, maybe not quite that bad, but it’s close. Sarah had really good Beats wireless headphones for a while, but when those met their end, we went back to SkullCandy earbuds, which are good and a lot cheaper. See more here.

Unschool Rules unschooling gift ideas: A Cozmo robot is fun for a bunch of ages

Gaming time

Why we like it: Video games are great, but many of the ones we like the most require ongoing subscriptions. Having the cost of those covered as a gift is awesome!

Ones to try:

  • World of Warcraft (Blizzard/Battle.net) – This is easily Sarah’s favorite computer-based game, but it requires a monthly subscription in addition to the software purchase. The good news is, you can let it lapse any time and pick back up where your character left off when you renew.
  • PlayStation Plus – This is what allows you to play online multiplayer games like one of Sarah’s favorites, Destiny, on PS4. This is actually what she is saving up for herself right now!
  • Steam – Not officially a subscription, but if you give credit, your gift recipient can download whatever game they like from this great PC gaming platform.
  • Club Penguin Island – Subscription fun for the slightly younger set. Sarah was a member of the earlier iterations of Club Penguin for almost nine years and loved it the whole time.

Unschool Rules unschooling gift ideas: Fun things related to favorite TV shows (like The Walking Dead)

Unschooling Gift Ideas: Special Interests

This is my favorite gift idea, because it’s my favorite part of unschooling: helping my kid pursue her passions.

If an unschooler in your life loves something specific – whether it’s, like Sarah, a TV show like The Walking Dead, or whether they’re really into science, or they love drawing… whatever it is, if you can find a gift related to that interest, you’re golden.

It absolutely does not matter to Sarah that she has gotten three blankets featuring different Walking Dead characters, because she sleeps with all of them. She has a larger collection of Pop! vinyls than most mall stores, and it’s still growing. When you can give a gift that ties into a special interest, you’ll get a great reaction!

Your Unschooling Gift Ideas

I’d love to be able to expand this list! If you have great ideas for gifts you’ve received as an unschooling family, or that you’d like to receive, please comment!