10 things we couldn’t live without: Our homeschooling and unschooling must-haves

When I first started this website, I was SUPER excited to be asked to join the iHomeschool Network, which had (and still has) great writing prompts for homeschool authors. As part of its 10 * in * 10 series, for 10 weeks, lots of awesome homeschoolers shared their “Top 10” lists on a variety of themes.

This post came out of 10 things we wouldn’t want to be without in our homeschooling/unschooling journey, and even as I look back at the list a few years after it was originally written, I realize these are pretty much all still absolute must-haves, so I guess I picked well!

Top 10 homeschool resources for unschoolers

1. National Geographic.

The whole brand, not just the magazine. Ashar loves NatGeo’s website, its books, its interest in wildlife conservation, its photography… and there isn’t a time when she digs in to one of their resources that it doesn’t lead her to say, basically, “I want to know more.” A lot of their items are a little pricey (the books sure are!) but you’d be amazed at what they offer for free on topics from civics to geography to biology and more!

2. Our local library.

I’ve said it before, but The York County Library System is beyond phenomenal. I’ve gone to the same library since I was three or four years old, and Ashar has been going since she was old enough to get a library card. The summer reading program is actually paired with a hiking program, and this year’s is themed to astronomy, which Ashar loves. (You read about various things related to the theme, then follow written directions to hike to a “station” about the topic, where you do a crayon rubbing.) No matter where you live, check out your library’s programs. I think you’d be surprised how much they go “beyond books,” but how much they can offer in that area too.

3. Our local parks.

Especially the one within walking distance to our home – a former golf course turned into a walking trail! Being outdoors is a major, major factor in our learning and one of the biggest things that was missing from Ashar’s days when she was in public school. For her, almost anything is better once she spends a little time outside.

4. Tape.

All kinds of tape. Scrapbooking tape. Duct tape. Scotch tape. Clear tape. Masking tape. Washi tape. “Tape all the things” is Ashar’s unofficial motto, I think! This child has received tape as a gift and been thrilled.

5. A flexible work and life arrangement.

I can’t discount the value of this. My change to a more flexible work-from-home career was THE deciding factor for us in being able to make the switch to homeschooling, but even the now-full-time job that Kaitlyn and I both have working for a medical school an hour from home is flexible in many ways. (And Ashar’s dad, Chris, who works at a newspaper full-time, benefits from some flexibility too.) That’s what allows us to go to an art museum on a Thursday… to stay up til midnight doing science experiments… and so much more. Wherever you can increase your flexibility, you will increase your happiness, whether that’s in homeschooling or elsewhere.

6. Technology.

Yeah, everyone says this. But everything from Wikipedia to Instagram to Pinterest to the aforementioned National Geographic resources online to Youtube to my mom’s iPad… these tools are a lifesaver, both for research and for my sanity.

7. Real and virtual friends.

The is everyone from the iHomeschoolNetwork moms to my many Facebook friends… my friends who homeschool here in York County… and our friends who are still in the area’s public schools who keep us “hooked in” to the goings-on! (Not to mention who are willing to share their knowledge with Ashar on everything from hairdressing to business ownership to being an EMT to collecting postcards!) Tap into the knowledge of your friends. It’s amazing how much I’ve personally learned this way, and your kids will do the same.

8. 4-H.

This program is great for everything from getting Ashar together with kids of all ages who share her interest in the outdoors to introducing her to places like a wolf sanctuary to giving her a chance to spend an hour one-on-one with a Master Gardener learning about butterflies and native plants to teaching her to make soap. 4-H isn’t just livestock. I would encourage you to contact your local cooperative extension and find out more about what programs (4-H and others) they offer in your state, if you’re based in the US!

9. Great local Goodwill/economy and thrift stores.

You can find so many things there, from books to craft supplies to play clothes to inline skates that you can tear apart to build homemade skateboards… cheap!

10. Our support community.

Ashar couldn’t do her “learning” without her dad, my mom, my fiance, our extended family, our friends, our 4-H leaders and many more people, and I sure couldn’t take the pressure of being the only person responsible for helping her learn. Chris, Kaitlyn and my mom especially get a LOT of credit, as they’re always willing to support our crazy projects (even at odd hours), and they’re great about guiding Ashar so that I can get my work done as well. Whether you’ve got a big family or are a single parent, your support system is key to keeping both you and your kids learning and happy (and yes, I firmly believe those can co-exist!)

A look back at our week: Anniversary, lake day and demolition derby

Figured I’d use The Homeschool Mother’s Journal, which I haven’t participated in for a couple of weeks, to help round up some of what we’ve been doing!

In my life this week…

Chris and I traveled around Maryland, Virginia, West Virginia and Pennsylvania late in the week as our celebration of our seventh wedding anniversary! We saw Luray Caverns, Ohiopyle State Park here in PA, tons of falling-down things, lots of small towns… it was great. One thing I’ve realized about working at home and being with Ashar all day is that even though I love my “at-home life,” I miss my husband TONS while he’s at work, often for long hours, much more noticeably than I did when I also worked in an office! So time with him to just talk and laugh together is the best anniversary gift I could get.

Chris and Joan Otto in Maryland

In unschooling this week…

We’re “done” sixth grade, if we were following standard grade levels. I’m working hard (with Ashar’s help, actually!) to finish getting her portfolio together for our meeting with our evaluator tomorrow evening!

Ashar hasn’t stopped learning, but she is enjoying the idea of having “finished” something, which is kind of a neat way of having the best of both worlds!

I am inspired by…

You might have seen a promo for this pop up in my sidebar over the weekend, and if you’re my in-person friend, I’m sure you’ve heard me talking about this.

“This” is a documentary that I’ve had the great privilege to help bring about. Adam Baker of Man Vs. Debt (my boss, and an all-around awesome guy), as well as his friends Grant Peelle and Dustin Koester, John Cropper, Bryan Olinger (also all awesome guys), traveled across the country for about six weeks, interviewing all sorts of people about the issue of complacency and how living the “American Dream” is oftentimes at the expense of your REAL dreams.

I’m living proof of that – I worked for years to buy a house, go to college, have an “office career,” and do all these things that are expected of you, but I wasn’t living the life that I always dreamed of. We had way too much debt (still do, but we’re working on that!) and just generally weren’t in the place in life we wanted to be, although to all appearances, we looked like we were “doing fine.”

So when Baker offered me the chance to help behind the scenes of the documentary as part of my work with him, I was all in. My contributions are small – lots of details, lots of emails, lots of coordinating – but right now, Baker and “the guys” are doing a BIG thing. They’re trying to raise $100,000 to finish funding the production of the documentary and get it to market.

So this is where I’m asking for help. If you’re able to support us with even $5, you get a full digital copy of the documentary when it’s finished. You get some pretty cool stuff if you can support us more, too!

The biggest thing you can do, though, is SHARE. Share the trailer. Tell friends about what we’re doing. We really want to shine a light on the issue of complacency and we believe we can literally lead thousands of people to change their lives if we can pull this off, and that means we need to spread the word and get as many people as possible to watch the trailer (and hopefully soon the full film!)

Places we’re going and people we’re seeing…

Once Chris and I got home from our trip, we kicked “family time” into high gear. We spent a day with my best friend’s family at a demolition derby, then visited with my father-in-law, my sister-in-law and her family and friends on the lake where they live. Ashar even got in the lake – which is a HUGE win! (Remember, this is the kid who barely would wade in the ocean!)

Floating in Lake Meade

My favorite thing this week was…

Watching Chris jump in the lake, in all his clothes, because Ashar wanted to and because getting in with him would make her more comfortable.

Also, this picture, which my best friend Nina (who happens to be a professional photographer, lucky me!) took of Ashar at the demo derby. Beautiful. 🙂

Sarah's portrait

What’s working/not working for us…

Chris and I talked a bit while we were away about how we feel like homeschooling has gone for Sarah. We’re definitely not looking to send her back to public school any time soon, but we both had some areas where we feel like things are going well and some that we think we can help improve on for the coming “school year,” as it were!

One big thing we’re considering is how to deal with math. I’m a huge fan of a living math approach in an unschooled style like we do everything else, but Ashar has some particular challenges in this area that are making it hard for her. Not sure yet what we’ll do, but you can be sure I’ll be blogging on that!

Things I’m working on…

I just was accepted to join The iHomeschool Network (YAY!) and put in a proposal for a fun blog series to work on in July (HINT: It’s related to something else in today’s post!), so I’m starting to plan that out!

I’m also still trying to get my scrapbooking area set up at home… wish me luck.

We’re reading…

We’re reading “The Return of the Indian” by Lynn Reid Banks aloud with Sarah… that’s the sequel to “The Indian in the Cupboard,” which Ashar liked so much! She’s also been reading a lot of non-fiction books about Native Americans, and after we’re finished this book, we hope to start on “The Sign of the Beaver” by Elizabeth George Speare.

I’m grateful for…

My husband. Always. Not just this week, when we celebrate our anniversary, but every day. He’s just such a good partner, a great friend, an amazing dad… I could not do it without him! (He will blush reading this and probably wish I hadn’t given him a shout-out, but I can’t resist. Hi, Topher!)