Are these the droids you’re looking for? Ashar’s Androidify creations

Lest you think from our recent in-depth posts on things like The Phantom of the Opera and major nature-study trips that we’re TOO productive here at the Otto house, I bring you something fun today, courtesy of Ashar’s creative brain.

Thanks to her friend Nathan, Ashar discovered the Androidify app.

This is exactly as it sounds. You can create little customized versions of the (normally) green Android device mascot.

Ashar could do this. For. Hours. In fact, she has. She creates them, and then she tells me all about their back story and why they’re dressed the way they are. I can’t keep some of them straight, but she does!

Here are a few of her favorites.

The “Ready for Duty” collection

(I’m not clear on the use case for Bluetooth during martial-arts practice, but otherwise, we’re all geared up and ready to go, including missiles!)

Androidify creations in costumes

The “Urban Style” collection

(Ashar loves the parrot. And the tattoos. And, she says of the one on the bottom right, “Mom, his shirt is, like, a pun! Do you get it??” Sigh.)

Androidify creations in urban styles

The “Family” collection

(Yes, this is me, and Chris, in Android style.)

Androidify creations of family members

This concludes today’s free advertisement for the Android platform. (But we do think it’s pretty cool!)

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The Phantom of the Opera is there… inside our minds

During our first couple of weeks of homeschooling, we had one of the best cases of learning-by-happenstance I could imagine.

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We caught the 25th anniversary performance of The Phantom of the Opera at the Royal Albert Hall in London, thanks to our local PBS affiliate.

I’ve been a Phantom fan since middle or high school (and even was fortunate enough to see it on Broadway, thanks to our amazing high school band program’s trip), and once Ashar saw the performance this spring, she was hooked as well!

Even in the past two weeks, it’s still nothing for us to come downstairs in the morning and find Ashar engrossed in Phantom performance videos from Youtube on her phone, or asking to hear the CDs from the New York performance in the car.

Even her ringtone is the sound of Christine and the Phantom singing together “The Phantom of the Opera is here…”

It’s awesome! My friend Aadel was just talking the other day about how much you can learn from musicals, and it made me think that I should try to capture some of the great stuff we’ve found related to our personal favorite.

Phantom of the Opera homeschool unit study learning guide

The Phantom of the Opera book and general story

If you’re not entirely familiar with the Phantom of the Opera plot, Wikipedia offers one of the best summaries out there of not only the Gaston Leroux novel, but also how it compares and contrasts with some of the modern renditions.

We have a battered copy of the novel, and while Ashar hasn’t made it the whole way through, I have read it in its entirety a few times, and Ashar’s cherry-picked some of the best parts!

Much like when we got on a Shakespeare kick after we saw the movie version of Romeo and Juliet, it worked best in our case for Ashar to see the live performance first and THEN try to pick up the book. I think it not only made more sense, but she was more invested in trying to make her way through it!

At Ashar’s level (she’s 12, and in seventh grade), the original novel seemed the way to go. But more toned-down retellings of the story make it accessible to younger readers as well. There’s a Stepping Stone early-readers’ edition as well as an upper-elementary version from the Classic Starts series, and even a Phantom pop-up book!

There are also any number of what I loosely lump into the category of “retellings,” “adaptations” and “sequels.” All I’ll say here is… there’s a reason I’m not linking to any! I’m sure there are some that are interesting, especially to real aficionados, but most I’ve found to be just weird for the sake of being weird!

(Even better description: Ashar asked Chris for a plot summary of the sequel, which he described to her, and she goes… “That’s messed up. It will end poorly.” There you go.)

Phantom of the Opera movies, CDs and live performances

Our dream is to take Ashar to see a live performance, hopefully on Broadway, within the next two years. (She’s campaigning for London, but, uh… that’s probably a bit unrealistic.)

It’s pricey, even for a touring show. I’m lucky enough to have seen the Broadway version in high school, as I mentioned, and one of the first trips Chris and I took together was to see a touring company perfomance in Baltimore; even that was a big gift!

If you can go, though, check out the official website, www.thephantomoftheopera.com, for details on shows in New York City, the United Kingdom, Las Vegas and more. Hint: Even if you don’t think you’ll actually get to a performance, the site is amazing!

We really enjoy our CD of the original cast recording. In fact, Chris and I both had copies when we got married, and we’ve worn them both down to the point of skipping, so we’ll probably have to fork over for a third soon!

If you’re just looking to introduce your family to Phantom, especially younger children, one of the best places to start is the vast collection of performance videos on YouTube.

I’m not a Netflix subscriber (yet; I think the day is coming!) but some friends have told me there’s a good selection of Phantom versions to watch there as well!

If you’re looking for a particularly good movie version, here are my three favorites, all very different and very worthwhile!

 

 

Other good Phantom resources

<Usborne English worksheet based on a young readers’ edition of the book (the version they reference is one from their catalog, but it’s appropriate for any of what I call the “standard retellings!”)

Usborne’s accompanying answer sheet and teachers’ guide

Any other Phantom fans out there? What did I miss? Leave a comment; I’d love to add to this even more!

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This post is part of a loose series of posts good for unit studies. Here’s another one that shares our favorite solar-system learning resources!

We also do an occasional series of “Family Field Trip” posts, combining our own adventures with resources we’ve found helpful. Many of these will work even if you can’t visit in person!

In that series, we shared free resources to help you learn about Philadelphia, Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell and others to help you learn about and make the most of a visit to Assateague, Md., and Chincoteague, Va. We also took a family field trip to Jim Thorpe, PA, and shared our favorite resources for that!

How my 12-year-old daughter encourages our whole family to be positive and grateful

Ashar has been on a big kick lately with saving images of positive quotes. I guess it’s the “Pinterest phenomenon” or something!

She uses them as phone wallpapers, texts them to friends, puts them on Instagram… you name it.

Well, this week, she said she wanted each of our family members to type out a list of what makes us happy and that we’re grateful for.

In turn, she took all four of our answers as well as one of her current favorite quotes and made a nicely-laid-out sign for our fridge! She said she’s going to update it every couple of weeks.

Gratitude sign for family fridge

It makes me smile every time I open the fridge. I couldn’t be prouder of my girl – and of my mom and husband, who jumped right in with what they were grateful for as well!

We’ve also had a resurgence in a before-bed routine we started last school year, when things weren’t going so hot in public school.

Ashar’s counselor (and some other friends) had been really encouraging her to think about some of the positives in her life. Sometimes, before bed, Ashar would ask me to help her make a list of good things so that she could remember them when she woke up the next morning.

Lightbulb… On the back of Ashar’s bedroom door, I put up a quickly hand-lettered sign in shades of Ashar’s favorite color, blue. We grabbed a pack of Post-Its and a pen, and started making a short list each night so that, before she left her room in the morning, she could see the reminder.

We don’t do it every night any more – but occasionally, Ashar will grab the Post-Its before bed and make a list!

Today Is a Good Day reminders for kids

I just love that the youngest member of our family is the one encouraging all of us to new heights of positivity and gratitude. I love you, Ashar, and I’m thankful for YOU!

Family field trip to Assateague and Chincoteague

Laughing on the beach at Assateague Island

In my snippets from unschooling post earlier this week, I mentioned we spent a few days last week in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware.

It’s a great “home base” for a beach vacation, because you can drive up and down the Delmarva (that’s Delaware-Maryland-Virginia, for those non-East-Coasters!) shoreline and see a bunch of great things, everything from the Cape May/Lewes Ferry that’ll take you to New Jersey, smaller beaches like Dewey and Fenwick Island in Delaware, to Ocean City, Md., to Assateague and Chincoteague, islands in Maryland and Virginia respectively.

We’ve lately done most of our lodging through Airbnb, which is essentially a brokerage for private house or apartment rentals. We’ve stayed at some amazing places – for a fraction of the cost of hotels.

For this trip, we rented a two-bedroom apartment in Rehoboth, literally within view of Coastal Highway (Route 1, the main route down the coast).

And from there, it was about an hour’s drive to Assateague Island National Seashore and then another hour down through Maryland and Virginia farmland to Chincoteague National Wildlife Refuge. (If you’re planning a visit, this is important – there is no public road that goes from one end of the island to the other; you must return inland to travel to the southern end!)

These areas are most noted for being the home of wild ponies (and here’s a good overview about them)… but there is so much more to see there! Here’s a look at some of the highlights of our trip – and a list of resources available to you if your family would like to learn more about Assateague, MD, and Chincoteague, VA!

Great blue heron at Assateague Island

Assateague Island National Seashore

On our visit to the north end of Assateague Island (the Maryland side), we loved checking out the Assateague Island Visitor Center, where we spent a couple of hours (it’s that good). Then, we took a driving tour of about 45 minutes around the island, looking for the wild ponies! We didn’t see any up close, but spotted several birds (including the great blue heron seen above) and visited some wonderful areas of unspoiled beach.

And Ashar got to pet a horseshoe crab at the visitors’ center! She could have stared at it for a half-hour easily.

Petting a horseshoe crab at Assateague Island

Ashar also spotted a seahorse in another aquarium – probably the first I’d seen in person!

Seahorse at Assateague Island

After leaving the visitor center, there is a fee of $15 to enter the main part of the island by car on the Maryland side, but the pass is good for seven days!

Adopting a horse on Assateague Island

Here are some of the other cool Assateague things we found.

  • The Assateague Foster Horse Program allows you to help support the care of the ponies of Assateague by “adopting” a horse of your choice for about $40. In exchange, you receive a fact sheet on your horse, plus a nice portfolio with an 8×10 photo and a certificate. Conveniently, you can see an example above – as we are now proud supporters of “Boots.” (Boots, by the way, was the nickname of my mom’s dog in high school!) One of the great things about this program is you can support the horses even if you’re not able to visit in person – but we were lucky to be able to try to spot our horse while visiting! (No luck, but that’s OK!)
  • The foster horse program is run by a friends’ group called the Assateague Island Alliance.
  • The official National Park Service site on Assateague Island National Seashore is as thorough as I’ve come to expect from NPS! There’s much there to recommend, so browse around, but I’ll highlight a few of our favorite links here.
  • The NPS brochure on The Wild Horses of Assateague Island is a great basic overview of the herd, in easy-to-read Q&A format.
  • The Prince Georges Audubon Society offers a great map and links to other resources on the Assateague area.

Kingfisher at Assateague Island

Bald eagle at Assateague Island

Chincoteague National Wildlife Refuge

We weren’t sure what to expect, but were lucky to have a slightly closer look at the ponies here on the southern end of the island!

Wild ponies at Chincoteague

There is a fee of $8 per car per day to enter the island from the Virginia side; and, like with the northern end, there is also an option for a $15 one-week pass.

  • While the ponies are the “main attraction” for many first-time visitors to Chincoteague or Assateague, we were just as impressed with the variety of birds we were able to see! We were amazed to be able to spot both a kingfisher and a bald eagle – and Ashar was the first to identify both! (You can see them above.)
  • Speaking of ponies, though, here’s a guide to some of them, along with photos. 
  • There are two visitors’ centers on the south end of the island – one operated by the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service, and the other by the National Park Service (that’s the “Tom’s Cove” visitors’ center that you might read about in some of the links above.) Here’s the Fish and Wildlife Service’s page on Chincoteague National Wildlife Refuge. Not only was their visitors’ center amazing, but the staff members working at it were too; they really enjoyed talking with Ashar about their projects and the wildlife of the area, including some interesting local squirrels!
  • The Fish and Wildlife Service offers a great resource page of lesson plans on local animal tracks, invasive plants and more topics.
  • The Chincoteague Natural History Association is a friends’ group that supports Chincoteague; their website has everything from information on the lighthouse to bird sightings and more!
  • And, because I can’t forget the obvious, the Misty of Chincoteague series by Marguerite Henry is a great realistic fiction acccount of the Chincoteague ponies!

Horseshoe crab tail on the beach at Chincoteague

The beaches on the Virginia end of the island are also beautiful; there, Ashar found the tail of a horseshoe crab!

Virginia farmland outside of Chincoteague

Ashar took this photo of the trip from Maryland to Virginia – very colorful fall fields along the way!

One other, uh, interesting facet to the trip occurs just as you’re crossing to Chincoteague Island. This was a first for me, and my photo isn’t particularly clear, but…

The whole highway is a bridge. And then there’s another bridge intersecting the main bridge, which you can see to the left! Bridge meets bridge… the first I’ve ever seen! (I’m not a huge bridge fan. So it was a little scary. Don’t make fun of me.)

Intersection of bridges near Chincoteague, Virginia

Other Great Assateague and Chincoteague Learning Resources

NASA Wallops Island Flight Facility main entrance sign

I can’t say enough good things about this trip. We actually didn’t know what to expect, but we were thrilled with what we found!

If you have any other suggestions for good Chincoteague or Assateague study ideas, please comment; I’ll be glad to add them to the list!

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This post is part of an occasional series of “Family Field Trip” posts, combining our own adventures with resources we’ve found helpful.

Many of these will work even if you can’t visit in person!

Earlier in the series, we shared free resources to help you learn about Philadelphia, Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell!

This post is also part of the iHomeschool Network’s Best Homeschool Field Trips linkup. Click the image at right to read more!

Painting on pumpkins: Meet Spooky and Lightning

Painting pumpkins as a homeschool art project

We had a rather frightening crop of surprise pumpkins in our side yard this year, thanks to my spur-of-the-moment decision last fall to throw our rotting pumpkins on the compost heap.

Painting pumpkins as a homeschool art project

These things were HUGE. They, along with two Attack of the Killer Tomatoes plants, took over a side of the house.

Well, we harvested them (finally) and came up with quite the showing of pumpkins and gourds! Until now, though, they’d all simply been sitting on our bench out front, not even particularly decoratively.

Painting pumpkins as a homeschool art project

About two days ago, Ashar came in and wanted to know if she could paint a pumpkin. She had one all picked out – and named him Spooky.

Tonight after dinner, she set to painting. You can see Spooky, mostly finished, above. He’s got a green scar and large, fang-like teeth.

Ashar says he has a green scar “because he was playing in the grass and he got a stain that never came off.” There you have it!

Painting pumpkins as a homeschool art project

After doing the first one, she thought she’d do another. This time, she first tried to write out a quote about happiness, but quickly realized that long quotes and small pumpkins aren’t an ideal fit.

Thankfully, acrylic paint washes off of pumpkins! (Add that to the list of things Mom learned today!)

Painting pumpkins as a homeschool art project

So instead, happy with how Spooky turned out, Ashar created a brother for him, this time named Lightning. (Because he has a lightning-like yellow birthmark.)

Painting pumpkins as a homeschool art project

The best part, in my opinion, is that they both have a “mohawk.” Ashar said she wanted to do something with the stem other than having it look like a stem, so she painted both and said, “Look, mohawks!”

Happy fall!

Saying yes to The Avengers

Last month, my contribution to “Saying Yes” was a big one – we agreed for Ashar to have her own cell phone.

This month’s is a little less earth-shattering.

I said yes to watching The Avengers with Chris and Sarah.

Saying Yes to watching The Avengers

They’d seen it already – and had wanted me to watch it with them, but I just hadn’t worked up much enthusiasm for it. I’m not particularly into comics, or superheroes, but I was familiar enough with the storyline to follow along, and you know what?

Turns out it was pretty fun – and I loved, loved, loved the Hulk, who I’m told I sometimes resemble, usually at the grocery store.

(You know the type: “I need 8 rolls of paper towels! These come in packs of 6 or 12! Arrrrrgh!” To which Chris will say to Ashar, “Uh-oh, Mommy’s hulking out again.”)

JOAN SMASH…

Though I admit, I’d prefer to look like the Black Widow, especially at tae kwon do… I probably look much more like the Hulk fumbling around than I do the woman with mad kicking skills, but hey, at least I try!

How have you said yes this week?

Horseshoe crabs, sad alpaca news and clothes shopping: Snippets from unschooling this week

I am super-unbelievably-awesomely glad that the “7 Snippets from Unschooling” blog hop is up and running again. These posts are my chance to capture the moments I’d otherwise miss talking about in between “big posts.”

Here’s a look at some of the ups – and downs – of our past week or so.

1. One of Ashar’s favorite online gaming sites is Webkinz, and apparently the big thing is “classrooms” right now among the players.

So they’re showcasing photos of kids who’ve decorated their Webkinz’ classrooms with borders and chalkboards and neat rows of desks and all.

Ashar says to me today, “Oh, I have a classroom too!” And proceeds to show me… how, when her “rec room” got full, she moved the “learning-type stuff” out of there and into this classroom. There’s a big whiteboard for drawing, a TV, video games, a couch, bookshelves, etc. I cracked up… it was just so in line with our life.

Ashar and friends at a friend's wedding

2. My best friend, Nina, got married to a wonderful guy last weekend. We had a blast at the wedding, a small ceremony at a local park. Best part? In addition to Nina’s son and nephew, the wedding included another special kid – Ashar’s best friend Madi, whose mom was the awesome wedding photographer!

3. Ashar’s body type is such that she has a TON of trouble finding clothes that fit well. We’ve found that she basically skipped from a kids’ 12 to a juniors’ size 0 or 1 – which is actually SMALLER than the kids’ 14s and 16s, because it’s tailored specifically for a slender person.

The thing is, the clothes that fit Ashar best are brands like Aeropostale and Hollister, so now I’m the not-entirely-thrilled mom to a Walking Brand Billboard. (Yes, that’s a Hollister polo in the shirt above.)

In good news, though, our finds so far have all come from local thrift stores and a couple of outlets, which helps keep the budget in check.

Horseshoe crab art drawn on the beach at Assateague Island

4. We took a short vacation earlier this week, and Chris, Ashar and I took my mom to the shore for a couple nights.

I’m sure that will get its own post, but one fun thing had to do with horseshoe crabs, one of Ashar’s favorite animals. We came upon a couple on the beach, and I guess the husband was disappointed not to find any horsehoes that day.

So his wife helped him out – with the sand art above!

Well, when Ashar saw that, she decided to try her own.

Horseshoe crab art drawn on the beach at Assateague Island

5. We’re still visiting our host alpaca farm about once a week as part of Ashar’s 4-H work. Last week’s visit brought something sad, though; we came upon one of the cria, or baby alpacas, down in the field.

Buttercup was just sprawled out, breathing but not responsive. She survived the night, but with no improvement, and had to be put down early the next morning.

Ashar took it as well as could be expected – I think it helped that we weren’t there when the end came, and I think she’s learning that as cool as these animals are, they’re much more like livestock than pets, inasmuch as when you have a few dozen of something, the fact is, they aren’t all going to make it.

It’s still a shame.

NASA Wallops Island Flight Facility

6. In an amazing piece of serendipity, our travels at the shore took us right past NASA’s Wallops Island facility, which was a great fit for our recent space fascination.

In a bit less serendipitousness, the visitor center was closed until the next day, and we were close to two hours from our hotel.

Oh, well, that’s a trip for another week!

7. We’re now all the way up to “Life of Fred: Farming” – the sixth book out of the 10-book elementary series. And we’re only a couple of chapters away from finishing Neil Armstrong’s biography, too.

You know that that means… it’ll soon be New Book Time, yeah!!

I, meanwhile, have started reading Buzz Aldrin’s autobiography, Magnificent Desolation, mostly focused on his life after the moon landing, and it’s amazing thus far.

Meanwhile, Chris and Ashar picked up the movie In the Shadow of the Moon, which intersperses footage from NASA of the various lunar landings with interviews with the men who walked on it.

We’re looking forward to watching that this weekend!

Side note: Since I mentioned Life of Fred, I want to note that while it’s described as a Christian series, we are a secular homeschooling family and have had no problems using what few religious references we’ve found as stepping-stones to discussions about what different people believe, which we like to do anyway!

Anyhow, that’s a look at seven snippets from our unschooling life lately. What’s going on in your world?

Screen learning: Some of our recent movie finds

When I was in school, “movie watching” was one of those things that was held out as a treat.

You know what that was like.

If you can muddle through your class’s study of the Civil War in eighth grade, we’ll pile you all in the auditorium and screen Gettysburg. Two weeks before the end of 11th grade, you’ll get the honor of watching a Shakespeare remake on the wheeled-in TV cart with VCR.

Me?

Lights out = Joan out. Asleep. Unconscious. Kaput! Zzzzzz…

OK, I like to sleep, but more than that, I was tired of those topics by the time we got through all the boring stuff before the movie. Even something I was interested in, like Beowulf, I’d dissected through so many essays that I couldn’t take any more by the time the Bonus Movie Screening rolled around.

I’ve also never been the world’s biggest TV or movie fan. I have no problem with screen entertainment, but I never sought it out.

Enter Ashar’s dad, Chris, who dubbed himself recently “Homeschool A/V Guy.” He can recommend a movie for every possible topic of interest.

And he’s smart about when to bring them up: We often START with a movie, and see where we go from there.

Case in point: Ashar had been doing just a little bit of reading about William Shakespeare in an issue of Kids Discover, and it mentioned the Leonardo DiCaprio/Claire Danes version of Romeo and Juliet.

Well, we kept an eye out – and spotted that movie in our OnDemand choices soon after.

Ashar loved it. This version uses all the original dialogue, but modern settings – which is more than a little bit trippy at first, but it really grows on you!

That, of course, spurred her to pick up a copy of Romeo & Juliet we had upstairs and start reading scenes. She had browsed our Shakespeare collection before, but for a visual learner like Ashar, the film was really the spark to dig deeper!

Next up came an interest in Treasure Island. Would you believe, when Ashar got her new cell phone, she immediately went into the Google Books app and noticed it had Treasure Island for free? She dug in – but the language was hard for her to follow.

Two days later, we’re at the Redbox kiosk, and we see the 2012 edition of Treasure Island, complete with Eddie Izzard and Elijah Wood! I didn’t even know that existed, but it was perfect.

(Perfectly long, too, by the way – 3 hours, spread over two parts.)

Anyway, we watched the whole thing – and again, Ashar became immersed in the story. Now, as she’s reading the book on her phone, it makes more sense. She has context and an idea of the plot… and, because of the trailers, she’s now thinking she might be interested in Moby Dick as well!

These both fall into the category of strewing – Chris and I going out of our way to take the things that we know about Ashar and put potentially interesting things in her path.

We didn’t set this up like “school movie time.” It’s much more a case of “Hey, whoa, they have a movie version – do you want to see it?” In both these cases, it was a total win.

Lest you think all of our movie watching is of the enriching classical variety, I must mention another recent viewing success.

It’s a scientific classic.

A lesson in relationships, knowledge and technology.

That’s right, I’m talking about Short Circuit, baby! It was always one of my comedy favorites.

Ashar, meanwhile, has been into robots this year. Even so, this wasn’t a case of me thinking, “OOOH, educational value movie.” Mostly, I just thought Ashar would like it.

The thing is, after we watched it, Ashar and I started talking about technology, and about what it means to be “alive,” and about having a soul.

And it really hit home to me, that when I get on my blogging high horse about unschooling and about learning from life, that I still have some unconscious distinctions in my head about what’s “valuable” and what’s “entertainment.”

Pssh. What do I know??

OK, but then came Chris’s choice of one of HIS old comedy favorites, The Goonies. And then I got firmly back on my high horse again and said, “OK, no educational value whatsoever.”

And then Ashar talked to us about what foreclosure is and why people who are different stick together, and I realized I absolutely needed to write something about how amazing movies are for us, and just forget about the “educational” nonsense!

Because, really, have you seen The Lorax? AMAZING. Deep. Insightful. And based on a preschooler’s book!

We have a few things in mind to watch in the coming weeks.

We’ve already seen a couple of clips from From the Earth to the Moon.

I have to give props to Homeschool A/V Guy, aka Chris, here, because I had no idea the clips were from an actual “thing.” So now we’re scoping out a copy of the miniseries; if anyone has a spare, we’d love to put it to use!

And last but not least, Ashar found an illustrated edition of White Fang in Target’s dollar bin this week, and her question after reading the first chapter?

Is there a movie of this?

(As it turns out, there are quite a few, so if you happen to recommend a particular adaptation, I’d welcome your comments!)

What have YOU been watching lately?

Biographies, biographies, biographies!

It was just a few weeks ago that I shared our unschooled version of a seventh-grade-ish curriculum plan for 2012-13, and in it, I happened to mention we’d probably read some biographies this year.

Some biographies?? We’re on number four and not showing any signs of slowing down.

We started with a biography of Sitting Bull, part of the Sterling Biographies series I keep saying I love.

Then we read the Jim Thorpe biography in the same series, and that night, when I asked Ashar what she wanted to read, she wanted to start with the Neil Armstrong biography (another Sterling gem!) that she just checked out from the library.

FUN FACT: Neil Armstrong got his pilot’s license before he got his driver’s license!

Well, after we read the introduction and first chapter of that one, I asked her if she’d like me to read anything else.

After rummaging around for a while on her bedside bookshelf, she found…

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a 1950s hardcover biography of Leonardo Da Vinci that my amazing husband had dug up for her at some used book sale or another.

We started reading the first chapter of it, and I was amazed at how much Ashar remembered from the Da Vinci exhibit we saw during last year’s visit to the Franklin Institute.

It turned out that not only did we read the first chapter, we talked about everything from his inventions to the Mona Lisa to that fact that “da Vinci” means “from the town of Vinci,” which, as it turns out, applied to Leonardo’s family.

FUN FACT (or, uh, opinion?): Our favorite da Vinci invention is the mechanical lion bearing flowers, which is pretty much the most amazing thing ever.

The coolest thing is, these biographies are teaching all of us, across so many areas of traditional curriculum. We’ve got history, science, social studies, reading, vocabulary, sports, art and more.

Ashar would have had a biography unit this year in public school. That’s not why we’re encouraging her interest in them, but it’s certainly an interesting chance to reflect on how homeschooling has provided us with so much freedom – and how, when Ashar is invested in her education, she’ll dig deeper than she ever had a chance to in a public school setting!

What else is Ashar reading?

We just finished our fourth book in the Life of Fred elementary series, “Life of Fred: Dogs.” Now we’re into “Life of Fred: Edgewood.”

If you had EVER told me that Ashar would ask me, routinely, to read one more chapter of a book that’s more or less about math, I’d have laughed hysterically.

Now, I’m just thrilled. Ashar even used the phrase, “WHEN we get to the Calculus book in the series…,” and it’s possible I might have gotten almost teary-eyed. I should also mention that while Life of Fred is described as a Christian series, we’re a secular homeschooling family and have had no problems using what few religious references we’ve found as springboards to discussion about what various people believe, which we like to do anyway.

Ashar’s also reading Treasure Island for free through the Google Books app on her new phone – something she figured out on her own that she could get for free and enjoy!

What’s the rest of the family reading?

My mom and I have been enjoying some medical thrillers by Michael Palmer – The First Patient, The Fifth Vial and A Heartbeat Away – all courtesy of our local library.

And Chris just bought 25 boxes of used books for his online bookselling business – and I’m sure he’ll be reading some of them before they’re listed for sale!

What’s your family reading?

Saying yes can be scary: An almost-teen with a cell phone

One of the biggest changes wrapped up in our journey into homeschooling hasn’t had anything to do with school per se.

A lot of the biggest differences in our life now come in how we interact as a family. In so many ways, we were heading toward what I consider a pretty rock-bottom experience in an awful lot of ways.

Yelling, screaming, crying… sometimes even from Sarah! 😉

A big change for me has been in my parenting approach. Through the years, we’ve adapted several different strategies, and none of them were getting us where we needed to be.

When I read about the idea of gentle parenting, parenting with grace, peaceful parenting, whatever you want to call it, I thought: “Maybe this is the change we need.”

It’s not easy. And I won’t say any of us are adjusting perfectly. But we’re adapting ideas that work, and one of them is Saying Yes.

I’m trying to say yes as often as I can. That’s in terms of Ashar’s requests, but also my husband’s and mother’s, and even my own preferences.

No one in our family is a doormat, but we’re also not tyrants – any of us. So while we all eat dinner together as a family, and we all have a say in menu-planning, if I choose something that I know my husband or daughter really doesn’t want to eat… it’s no longer a big deal. They’re glad to make something else themselves, we still eat together, and everyone enjoys the food.

That’s a simple example, but I’m finding that this “yes” business gets real complicated real quick.

Saying yes to a cell phone

This was our big leap-of-faith YES this week.

Ashar, who’s about 12 and a half, went from having no cell phone to having what I consider a pretty top-of-the-line smartphone with few, if any, restrictions on it.

This is incredibly scary for me. I’m not naive – and I have major worries about the content of text messages that are out there, the types of apps that are available, the drama that comes from the perceived slights among how fast someone does or does not text you back.

I’m trying to trust – and I’m counting on Ashar to keep that trust.

It’s not perfect, for sure. We’ve already talked about some general etiquette do-and-don’t situations (including, probably the hardest one for her, not bombarding her public-school friends with messages during the day, which truly didn’t even occur to her until one of them got mad!)

We’ve also made it clear, even before the phone, that you don’t do anything on email, chat or now text that wouldn’t want broadcast in front of your parents and your pastor. (Now, if only I would extend that rule into my own sometimes-too-snarky text messages…)

The up-side to saying yes to this?

  • Ashar’s learned how to use Instagram, and is happily documenting her life in photos and improving her photography skills.
  • She’s downloaded the NASA app and is on there pretty much daily, checking out space photos and their captions and seeing how the Mars Rover is doing.
  • Her first-ever text message was sent to me, saying, “Mom, I really appreciate my new phone and I love you and you’re my best mom ever, thank you!”
  • She’s beat all the levels of the free Rush Hour logic game app.

Other ways we’re “yessing”

The phone has been the biggest “yes” this month, but we’ve had others, many more than I can list. A few off the top of my head:

  • TAKING the phone places. Yes, you can take it to the fair. (I may have been biting my nails the whole time about this one, but we – and it – survived.)
  • EATING something different than what’s on the menu plan for dinner. And, as I mentioned earlier, this extends to the whole family, not just Sarah!
  • MODELING in a fashion show with my mom! This was a “yes” I probably wouldn’t have done before, but it was an enjoyable way to spend the day and to do something together!
  • WEARING mismatched socks. This is a huge fashion trend among the middle-school set in this area, and Ashar has picked up on it. I kind of like it, but I do admit, we get some looks (including from some of my friends). If Ashar’s comfortable, no one is going to be hurt by her sock choices, so I say go for it, kiddo!

Have you said “YES” lately? Doesn’t matter if you’re an unschooler or not, a homeschooler or not, or even a parent or not! I truly believe saying yes can change all of your relationships when it’s done intentionally and with love.